Spilt Milk

when I think I can do it all by myself

I do it myself!” rang from the kitchen, down the hallway, and into our bedroom. Jorja, at 3 years old, wanted some milk and was insistent that she was completely capable of getting the milk herself. She climbed up on the bar, opened up the cabinet, and pulled out her favorite Winnie the Pooh cup which toppled to the floor, as she tried to climb back down. She grabbed the plastic cup (thank you, Lord, that it was plastic!), and placed it strategically in the center of the kitchen floor. She then proceeded to push a stool over to the refrigerator, opened it up, and pulled out a gallon of milk. Because it was not completely full, she was able to handle it pretty well while she returned to the ground. She walked over to the meticulously placed cup, unscrewed the milk jug, and proceeded to pour the milk into the cup. What she didn’t realize was that in pouring, the cup would move. let’s just say that there was more milk on the floor than in her cup, and the old saying, “don’t cry over spilt milk” did not apply at our home that day.

We are currently in the season of LENT (click HERE if you want to read about what LENT is all about). Since LENT is a time of reflection and repentance, I felt the Lord say to write about the sins that seem permissible in this country that are doing great harm to us and those around us. My first post was about UNGODLINESS (click HERE if you want to read it), and was so convicting. My second post that I wrote was about ANXIETY, and that one was equally convicting (click HERE if you want to read it). The last post was about the permissible sin of dissatisfaction. (click HERE if you’d like to read it). God is doing a deeper work in me…I hope in you as well.

As we jump into today’s permissible sin, be reminded that as a Christian


So while I will be addressing these sins, God’s heart and mine is for us to repent, and make room for a replacing of His character in us.

Permissible Sin #4: SELF-SUFFICIENCY

Certainly, many of us as women may have been raised to be self-sufficient women. And I am sure that our parents meant well in teaching us to live with a sense of purpose and to know how to get our own job, cook our own meals, and change our own tire. But  I am speaking here of SPIRITUAL self-sufficiency. And if we are not careful, it can hinder our walks with Christ and our witness for Christ.

We can find ourselves self-righteous…thinking that we have all the answers, and our morality is perfect, giving us the right to judge everyone else for their lack of morality. We begin to feel and act morally superior to everyone around us. Maybe rather than responding with moral superiority, we could choose to respond with deep gratitude that but for God’s enormous grace towards us, we have not succumb to that sin.

We may find ourselves believing that we are doctrinally without error in any way and that those who do not believe what we believe in totality means that they are inferior to us. Maybe instead we should hold our convictions with humility.

We may also find ourselves believing that we are “self-made“, when the truth is that any and all success comes to us straight from the Father. We actually have nothing in and of ourselves that could enable us in any way to find success apart from the gifts of God.

The biggest of all of these self-sufficient examples are described in the Bible as a haughty spirit. It is seen prevalent today as a total resentment, rejection, resistance, and recoiling to any kind of authority. It is also seen in the lack of meekness in today’s society. Believing that we are the final authority on almost all subjects, and no one should question us, because we don’t need anyone to teach us anything is dangerous.

Here’s what the Bible says:

All of you must obey those who rule over you. There are no authorities except the ones God has chosen. Those who now rule have been chosen by God. So whoever opposes the authorities opposes leaders whom God has appointed. Those who do that will be judged.” Romans 13:1-2

A wise man will hear and increase in learning, And a man of understanding will acquire wise counsel” Proverbs 1:5


Ya’ll, I am embarrassed to say that I was the epitome of a spiritually self-sufficient person. To think about it, makes me sick to my stomach. How many people must have felt judged by me. How many must have felt like I was pointing my finger. God had to allow me to be exposed for the spiritually self-sufficient person I was, to humble me and help me live with a more teachable spirit.   He revealed to me how much I needed Him and the counsel of wise people around me. He was after my total DEPENDENCE on Him, not myself. My prayer is that God would reveal to all of us areas in our lives where we have carried ourselves and considered ourselves spiritually better, or smarter than anyone else. And may we, this Lenten season, repent and develop a humble, trainable heart that is totally dependent on Christ, so that we can grow into His image.

Questions to Consider: Where have you been operating in self-sufficiency? Have you become spiritual haughty? Have you resisted authority and the wisdom of others?

What do I do now? Confess your sin of spiritual self-sufficiency, even haughtiness, to the Father. Thank Him for His forgiveness. Ask His Spirit to help you learn to walk with a teachable spirit, to respect authority and to be humble. Declare your total dependence on the Lord, and release the “I do it myself!” attitude.

May you live a life of humble and total dependence on the Father. 

You are loved,


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