When I was a kid, me and my little sister were constantly bugging our older sister. We did the majority of our picking in the car. I can remember my mother constantly saying, “You don’t want me to come back there!” And friends, if she pulled that car over…..well, you can only imagine!
One time, when we were picking at each other, my mother declared, “Ya’ll keep it up and someone is going to get hurt!” Well, of course, we totally ignored her and kept on wrestling in the back seat. She finally said, “Don’t come crying to me when one of you gets hurt. I’ve warned you more than once, and this is the last time I’m going to say it.” You can probably imagine the tears and wailing when one of us hurt the other, and we both got spankings for ignoring our mother’s multiple warnings.
I wonder if sometimes, we never really grow out of this. I wonder if we still live life as we want, ignoring the warnings.
Personally, we are stressed, fatigued, tired, and weary, yet we just keep on pushing our bodies despite them telling us that we can’t take anymore.
Relationally, our marriages are distant, dry, empty, and dull, filled with bickering, short tempers, and cold shoulders, yet we keep pretending that everything is fine, when everything else indicates otherwise.
Friends, Dale and I were in a dry place personally and spiritually many years ago. The personal dryness brought a drought in our marriage. We pretended it was all okay only to find ourselves just a few short months later in divorce court.
Jesus said this in Matthew 23:23, “What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are careful to tithe even the tiniest income from your herb gardens, but you ignore the more important aspects of the law–justice, mercy, and faith. You should tithe, yes, but do not neglect the more important things.” Though Jesus was rebuking the Pharisees for their hypocrisy in following religious rules, His heart was clear: do not neglect the more important things. And we know that our relationship with Him and our spouses are most important.
May I please implore of you: don’t wait until your life gets so bad before you do something about it. Listen to the warning signs from your body, your heart, your spouse. Do not neglect the more important things.
Dale and I have had the privilege for the last 18 years to travel this country leading marriage, women’s and men’s events to help breathe life back into individuals and marriages. For the last 5 years, we have developed our own marriage conference called “Together at the Springs” at Shocco Springs Conference Center in Talladega, AL. This year, it will be February 23-25th.
We are also excited to be expanding and kicking off another marriage event called “Together at the Lake” at Lake Yale Conference Center just outside of Orlando, FL on April 6-8th.
Can I lovingly say this like my mother did? “We are warning you: Don’t wait til it’s too late, when your life and marriage are falling apart, when we are offering opportunity for you to better yourselves and your marriage.” I am telling you now, take time to refresh yourself and breathe new life into your marriage relationship. You need it. Y’all need it. Just do it.
Register for Together at the Springs at www.togetheratthesprings.com
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The slots are filling up fast. Make your plans now to join us. There’s a lot at stake, so press through whatever might be holding you back and make your plans to join us. It’s time to get your life and marriage back on track. It’s time to have some life breathed into you and your marriage!