My mother has a green thumb like no one I have ever known. She can take a leaf and grow a tree in a matter of days! She really is amazing at it and she has revived many a plant in my yard back to health after my failed attempts. While my older sister got this wonderful trait, that one skipped me completely! Even when we travel, my mother will call and say, “Don’t worry about your plants. I’ll take good care of them.”
Well, I have roses from both her house and her mother’s house. Nannie, my mother’s mother, loved yellow roses, so I have a yellow rose bush at my house that came from her garden. I have a beautiful burgundy rose bush from my mother’s house. And then I have some bright pink “knock-out” roses in the back of my house. My mother has taught me how to take good care of my roses, and though I often forget, they are still hanging in there! One of the most important things she said was to “deadhead” them. This means that you cut off the head or the bulb after the rose has bloomed and the petals have fallen off. That way, no more water and nutrients goes to the dead rose but rather goes to the buds that need it.
A few times I have gone outside to “deadhead” my roses, the Lord has spoken very personally to me. Today was no different. I went outside with my scissors in hand, and as I was deadheading the roses, I had to reach really far in the back. When I did, I caught my workout shirt on a thorn, making this big pull across the front. There was no way I would be fixing that run. As I stood there, bummed at what had just happened, I heard the Lord speak to me:
To get to the beauty that is deep within another, you are going to have to go there with them. It may be painful and messy. They may even wound you in the process. But someone has to go in there and help them discover it. The women you try to help are gonna have setbacks. they are going to disappoint you. But you must keep coming for them. If you don’t, who will?
And then, I cried as I talked to Him about how I have done this in the past and how deeply it hurt and I don’t want to hurt anyone and don’t want to hurt or feel the rejection or punishment that can often come with it. But, for the sake of another’s freedom, I have to do it.
There is SO much beauty in other women. When you meet other women, ask the Lord to reveal the beauty He placed inside. Truly breathtakingly beautiful is every woman God has made. We see the handiwork of God, the seeds of greatness placed in her. Those seeds when nurtured can produce a beauty to this earth like no other rose bush ever could. But the question becomes: will you take the time to see it in another woman? Pursue it? Fight for it? Help her get free from what is holding her back?
“To bestow on them a crown of beauty
instead of ashes,
the oil of joy
instead of mourning,
and a garment of praise
instead of a spirit of despair.
They will be called oaks of righteousness,
a planting of the Lord
for the display of his splendor.”
This was the mantra of Jesus. He has passed that on to us. Are you willing?